See if you can relate to any of these painful experiences. 

"We were incredibly connected -- and then she broke up with me out of the blue."  

"When someone gets too close, I get scared I'm going to mess it up. And I usually do." 

"I often end up feeling lonely and emotionally starved in my relationships."  

"It seems like I'm always attracted to unavailable women or narcissists."  

"My girlfriend acted independent at first, but then she got so clingy and demanding and insecure. I loved her, but the pressure was too much. I don't want to be someone's whole world."

"All I'm asking for is daily contact and a quick response to my texts. Is that too much to ask?"

"I need a lot of alone time and space, and I don't want to have to negotiate about that constantly." 

"Right after she said she wanted us to live together, she ended our relationship."

"I was devastated when the love of my life broke up with me. I spent months letting go. Then she wanted to try again. As soon as I started trusting, she broke up with me again! Are we done for good? Or, how can we get off this merry-go-round?"

"My heart has been broken so many times. Why do relationships have to be so hard?"

The truth is, lesbians are often great at falling in love, but our divorce rates are 3X higher than those of other couples.

Few people realize that the #1 reason for lesbian fights, breakups and divorces... is attachment wounding. 

What Is Attachment Wounding? 

Attachment is your brain's blueprint for bonding and connection. We usually feel the strongest chemistry with people who have the opposite blueprint -- and a push-pull struggle results.

One person's biggest fear is losing the relationship... and her partner's biggest fear is losing herself.

One person needs more closeness and contact (like frequent texting, lots of time together, lots of affection) in order to feel safe... while her girlfriend needs more independence and space.

One person needs to talk things through right away when there's a conflict, and the other person feels overwhelmed and needs a break. 

One person wants more time and affection, and the other finds herself shutting down. 

Attachment wounding is behind all this.

The interplay of each person's attachment wounding creates a domino effect. You've been there, right? I sure have. The more I needed, the more overwhelmed my girlfriend felt. Or, the more bonded she got, the more pressured I felt.

Pretty soon, both people feel unseen, unheard, and unloved.  

"I just need to know you still care about me. I need to be a priority," says one person. "You're the person I love most in the world. This is a normal thing to want."

"I feel overwhelmed, like I'm drowning," says the other. "Your needs are too much for me. I just need to get some air."  

From either side, it can be easy to blame your partner. "She's got abandonment issues." "She's just scared of intimacy."

And you know what? You're probably right! We pretty much do all feel scared of getting abandoned and/or of merging too much. It's normal. It's human. And finger-pointing and blaming don't help. 

Some of us blame ourselves, too. "What's wrong with me? Why do I feel so needy?" "Am I a terrible person? Why do I end up breaking people's hearts?"

The answers to these challenges and questions lie in understanding, and then healing, your attachment wounds, so you can actually have a sturdy, resilient, flexible, enduring bond.

This groundbreaking 4-week class, the first of its kind ever offered specifically for lesbians++, teaches you how to better understand your heart, your nervous system and your relationship patterns -- and most importantly, how to help your next (or current) love story be a happier one. 

Whether you're single, in a relationship but taking the class on your own,

or taking it as a couple, this class will give you a path forward.  

The live intensive has now ended, but you'll get the recordings free with membership.