The Intelligent, Compassionate Learning Community For Lesbians++
Welcoming all self-identified women and adjacent non-binary people who love women or want to.
Welcome!
I'm Dr. Ruth Schwartz, director of the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, and I'm so glad you found us. We help women and non-binary people crack the code to healthy, lasting lesbian love, and make great friends in the process.
Just coming out? We're delighted you're here.
We Exist To Support
Lesbian & Queer Love
The Academy is a warmly welcoming international learning community for lesbians++ dedicated to dating wisely and loving well. Meditators, yogis, healers, 12-steppers, deep thinkers, introverts and others devoted to personal growth tend to feel right at home here -- but so do those who are reeling from a breakup and ready for something big to change.
We've got the best lesbian-centric resources on the planet, with cutting-edge neuroscience, attachment theory and relationship research filtered through decades of lived queer experience. Our work goes as deep as you do.
Life-Changing Live Classes
If you've ever started a relationship with heart, hope and good will, only to have it shatter, you know you need a better way. You'll find it here.
If you're ever been fooled by chemistry or ruled by scarcity, you're not alone -- and it can change. Here you'll learn to build self-trust, clarity, and the skills you need to date wisely, so you'll never have a bad relationship again. (And when you're ready, you can have a great one!)
Heart-Opening Community
Not sure you're looking for love, but want more community and deeper friendships with growth-minded fellow travelers? Great!
Our classes and groups welcome longtime lesbians, women just coming out, and everyone in between. The depth, heart, vulnerability and courage we share here creates a powerful sense of home, as well as deep friendships.
A Path To Wise Dating & Lasting Love
Dating and love are where "the rubber meets the road," where our deepest longings live, and where our issues come up.
Lesbian relationships can be the best relationships on the planet, but they also take skill. That's why we combine cutting-edge neuroscience and attachment theory with decades of lived lesbian experience and spiritual wisdom from many traditions.
Skills Practice & Recordings
Hearing and sharing stories and getting to actually practice new skills is a big part of how Conscious Girlfriend changes lives. That's where our weekly skills lab comes in.
Packed schedule? You can also learn a lot on your own time. As a member, you'll also get access to the world's biggest treasure trove of recorded classes on lesbian dating, love and sexuality.
NEED SOME HELP DECIDING?
Start With A 30-Minute Strategy Session For Just $49.
Get a half hour 1:1 with our Outreach Director, Jen Solin, to explore how the Academy can support your lesbian heart.
Common Lesbian Challenges
Can You Relate?
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D A T I N G I S N ' T E A S Y
"I've had lesbian relationships, but I've really never dated.,, It's been a long time since I've dated, and the landscape is so different now... I know I tend to go too fast, but I don't know how to change that... I'm a late bloomer, and have no idea how to start dating women... Sometimes I wonder if the right person for me is even out there, or maybe I'm not meant to have a relationship."
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C O M M U N I T Y
"I sometimes feel like I'm not 'gay enough' to be part of the community... I'd love to make some new lesbian or queer friends... A lot of my lesbian friends are into drinking, and that's not my scene... As a late bloomer, I'm afraid lesbians won't accept me... The people I know aren't really growth-oriented or introspective the way I am."
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B R E A K U P S
"My last breakup shattered me. I still can't stop thinking about her... I feel like I should get out there and date, but I'm not sure I'm over my ex... I don't know how I'll ever be able to trust someone with my heart again... My ex broke up with me suddenly, out of the blue, and I still don't understand why."
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R E L A T I O N S H I P S
"My last relationship started out amazing, but then fell apart."
"I feel like I'm always attracted to the wrong women. If I'm attracted, she'll be bad for me."
"I find myself in the same painful patterns over and over, and I don't know how to break them."
"I know I need help communicating my needs."
"I've been in several toxic relationships. I seem to draw them like magnets."
"I often end up feeling overwhelmed or suffocated in my relationships."
"I don't know why my GF and I fight and bicker so much."
"It feels like we're just roommates. Where did the spark go?"
"I don't trust easily, and I often feel jealous or insecure."
"I don't want to have to give myself up to be in a relationship."
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S E X
"I was raised with a lot of guilt and shame, and it still affects me."
"I don't know how to ask for what I want in bed."
"I have fantasies or desires I feel ashamed of."
"I don't feel confident in bed, and it affects my dating and relationships."
"'I never seem to be able to get my needs met in bed."
"A GF asked me what I like, and I froze. I don't even know what I want."
"My desire for sex is really low. I wonder if I might even be asexual, or just done with sex."
"My relationships start out passionate but then we end up in lesbian bed death. I miss sex!"
We've Been Featured In:
People Are Saying
"I often send clients to Conscious Girlfriend and have seen it transform women's lives. CG is providing an incredibly valuable service to women who love women. It's run with integrity and heart and provides comprehensive information in a usable format. There's nothing else like it out there."
-- Julie Bjelland, LMFT
Director, Sensitive Empowerment Community for Highly Sensitive People
"I've invited Conscious Girlfriend Academy Director Ruth Schwartz back to my groups many times and even participated in Conscious Girlfriend Academy Coach Training because the CGA work is so FANTASTIC. I recommend the Academy every chance I get."
-- Jody Potiker, Founder, Lesbiangetaways.com
We're delighted to have our work recognized by a major international dating advice website! DatingAdvice.com lists us among their top queer dating experts, saying:
Supportive and fun community of lesbians... It’s open to single lesbians and couples and is designed to help you learn to create the kind of love life you're looking for.
"I will be forever grateful to you for helping me learn how to navigate the ups and downs in relationships... Thank you for helping women who love women find the love and connection we deserve.
A Book That Changes Lesbian++ Lives
"I finally came out at 32, am now 44, and thanks to discovering your book I have finally found me. I’m currently on week 3. After looking back over my last relationship I realised how much self loathing I had, but your book has given me a new lease on life. Now it's not about if I'm worthy of someone's love, it's whether we are both worthy of each other. I have learnt to not always be the giver and then feel resentful. I now know-- I deserve to be happy. I am worthy, I am beautiful, I am lovable as I am. My flaws and imperfections are what make me me. I'm happily single right now but I know by the end of the 12 weeks I will be ready... to meet the woman I deserve to be with. Anyway, sorry for the long email, I just wanted to say THANK YOU!!!!!!!!
– MC, age 44, U.K.
About Conscious Girlfriend Academy's Founder and Director
Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.
- Author of eight books, including the Amazon bestseller Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love: A Roadmap To Finding the Right Partner & Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams.
- Certified Somatica Method Sex & Intimacy Coach and former professor at eight universities, including Ashland University, Mills College and California State University Fresno.
- A proud member of the LGBTQ community since 1982.
We Are Here For You.
NEED SOME HELP DECIDING?
Start With A 30-Minute Strategy Session For Just $49.
Get a half hour 1:1 with our Outreach Director, Jen Solin, to explore how the Academy can support your lesbian heart.
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