The Resource For Growth-Oriented Lesbians

The Online School And Community Based On

The Book That's Changed Lesbian Lives Since 2015

More than a decade ago, Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. wrote Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love to give our community a roadmap to healthy lesbian love.

Today, that book has reached women and non-binary people in 25 countries, and has grown into a school, a community, and an entire body of lesbian relationship education.

The Academy's online classes and coaching can help you finally understand and heal from past heartbreaks, learn to find the love you want, and keep it strong.

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For Singles

"I want help with dating, putting myself out there in a way that doesn't get me hurt, and finding more friends and community."

For Late Bloomers

"I came out later, or I'm just beginning to explore lesbian love. Help me navigate dating, identity, relationships and this new chapter."

Seeking Community

"I want to meet lesbians in person, and I like depth, not socializing centered on alcohol. Where's my tribe?"

How The Academy Works

Annual Membership

Our most effective and economical path: 30+ weeks of live classes per year, including both Lesbian Dating Essentials and the Roadmap 12-week intensives... plus, our weekly coach-led skill-building year-round... plus over 100 on-demand classes in the archives... plus, optional Deep Dive group coaching with Ruth.

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A La Carte Classes And Groups

Dip a toe in with the 12-week Lesbian Dating Essentials class in September, or Roadmap in January.... or join our weekly peer-led group for lesbians 60+, or buy recorded classes on Dating, Love, Gender, Sex, Attachment or other topics from our archives, the biggest Lesbian Love Library anywhere.

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Hear From People Like You

"CGA has changed my life... After my last breakup, I was left with so many questions. I'm so grateful I found this community. I've never felt so seen."

"I never thought I would date online, but I learned how, and that's how I met my partner."

"I had been looking for a long time for a community of thoughtful single queer women, and I found that here... and then I met someone amazing!"

"I've been through a lot of relationship training, but CGA was my best investment ever."

"I'm really grateful because I was at a low point, and CGA gave me quality community working toward what I'm working toward, a place I can grow."

"I was amazed at the low prices... I think it's just the most amazing deal ever, for what you get."

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"This is high quality information that is so useful, and has benefited me a lot. I didn't go through my lesbian adolescence in adolescence, so the Academy really helped me think about who I am in relationships, what I want in relationships, and really start to pursue relationships that meet my needs. That was transformational."

Who Needs The Conscious Girlfriend Academy?

Lesbian Dating and Love Help -- And Open-Hearted Community -- Are Hard To Find

Maybe you're a late bloomer or later-in-life lesbian thinking, "How do I even get started?!?"

Or maybe you've been out for years or decades, but like many of us, you've never really "dated."

At this stage of your life, you can't afford another heartbreak. You want to learn how to do this thing right.

When you're single over 40, 50, 60 or 70, it's different. You know yourself better. There are compromises you won't make again. And, you also know there's no time to waste.

You want another relationship, but it has to be the right one, and you don't know how to find her.

Or you're still picking up the pieces after your last breakup, not ready to date, but needing more friends and community to help you make sense of life, and heal your heart.

Whatever you're struggling with, you're not alone. The Academy is here to help you get from wherever you are... to wherever you want to be.

>Check out our recent class on Lesbian Love Over 50 to meet two beautiful women in their 80s now having the best relationship of their lives!

Our Community Needs And Deserves Help Designed For Us

Lesbians are brave and resourceful, and we love hard. But in this homophobic world, where were we supposed to learn how to love well?

Our relationships can be the very best relationships on the planet. But great relationships take great skill, and lesbian dating is not exactly intuitive. (You've heard the U-Haul joke, right?)

Two women together can go so deep, so fast. And it takes real skill, not just chemistry and connection, to sustain that kind of bond when the triggers hit the fan.

You've got to know how to choose your partner wisely, based on the factors that actually create long-term compatibility (which probably haven't even been on your radar!)

And you've also got to know how to work with your attachment style collisions and conflicts when they come up. It's not rocket science, but it is neuroscience,

You deserve world-class LGBTQ mentorship and research-based education and support, and that's exactly what you'll find in the Academy. Here, lesbian love gets easier.

Meet The Woman Who Started It All

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.

Dr. Ruth Schwartz, author of the Amazon-bestselling book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, is a pioneer in lesbian and queer relationship education.

After coming out in the 1982, Ruth had to learn everything the hard way. There was no healthy dating or relationship roadmap for women who loved women... so, after decades of struggle, she created one.

Incorporating neuroscience, attachment theory, psychology and lesbian culture, Ruth designed the transformational path our community has desperately needed. Read Ruth’s full story here.

Meet The Team

Nicki Monahan

Skills Lab Leader

Nicki (Toronto, Canada) is a master coach and trainer in the Concordia University Coach Certification Program. She first found CGA while recovering from a painful lesbian divorce in 2016, then became one of our very first trained coaches in 2022. She is an outdoor adventurer, dog lover and proud grandma.

Jen Solin

Outreach Director

Jen (Fort Lauderdale, Florida) directs our outreach, is a certified CGA coach, and leads our Meet & Mingle Magic events. She found CGA in 2022 after a series of "lesbian train wreck relationships," and is now in the best relationship of her life. Fluent in Spanish, Jen loves building lesbian community.

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Coaches

Left to right: Michel Grey, led Skills Labs. Kai Wu, co-led Lesbian Erotic Liberation series. Lisa Madsen (right), led Coming Out Support Group in 2023. Sandy Rakowitz, 2024, animal communication. Poonam Bhargava, 2024, coming out later in life, immigrants, and trauma.

What Our Faculty And Coaches Have In Common

(Does This Sound Like You, Too?)

We all bring our fierce intelligence and brave hearts to love.

We've all found ourselves in unhealthy relationships or painful breakups.

We've all transformed through Conscious Girlfriend Academy tools and community.

Here, you'll learn how to create the beautiful life and love you've always wanted.

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