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Hurting? Struggling In Love, Or Stuck Alone? That Can Change. 

But It's Not Just About Finding The Right Person. You Need The Right Path.

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A Quick Guide To The Conscious Girlfriend Academy

Global Leader In Lesbian & Queer Dating and Relationship Education, Support and Community

 

You could think of us as a "Lesbian Love University" with the curriculum you've been needing all your life. Though many women say, "I wish I'd found you decades ago," it's never too late. 

 

Our classes and deep-dive group coaching have helped thousands of women put their lives and hearts back together after shattering breakups, toxic relationships, frustrating or scary dating experiences, or just being single when you don't want to be. 

 

Here, women who love women can learn or re-learn lesbian dating skills at any age, so you can date with clarity, confidence and success. Not sure you want to date? That's great. We also provide growth-oriented lesbian and queer community and a learning environment that members say "feels like home."

 

Just coming out, or just questioning? We're here to embrace you and make your journey easier. 

 

In the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, you can learn to solve painful lesbian relationship problems, stop fighting, or even get back together with your ex and create a happy, healthy new lesbian love story, using the unique, neuroscience-based, lesbian-tested relationship tools we offer. 

 

Empowering Lesbians and Queer People to Build Conscious, Healthy Love

 

Let's be honest: lesbians often go too fast. Two women are capable of having the best relationships on the planet -- but to get there you'll need to "fix your picker," learn how to date in a sane and sustainable way, heal toxic lesbian relationship patterns, and build the skills to create love for the long haul, not just the U-Haul. 

 

Sound like a lot of work? Actually, after the Academy, your relationships will get much easier. But until you get the skills we teach, your heart is likely to keep getting you hurt. 

 

How to Find & Create The Lesbian Relationship You Want & Deserve

 

You deserve better than fantasies, myths, and passionate relationships that start out amazing and end painfully within a few months or years.

 

You also deserve better than settling for quiet disappointment, living like roommates, bickering, feeling lonelier together than alone, and lesbian bed death. 

 

You deserve better than spending years grieving after heartbreak, then being afraid to try again, or just not knowing how. 

 

You deserve a lesbian relationship that lights up your life and helps you be your best self, while supporting your partner to do the same.

 

With the world the way it is, need our intimate relationships to be places of support, refuge, nourishment and inspiration, not fights and drama. The Conscious Girlfriend Academy will help you get there. 

 

Hurting from a breakup? Struggling in a relationship? Leery of dating? Feeling disconnected? Just coming out? The Conscious Girlfriend Academy is here to help.

 

Why Conscious Girlfriend Academy?

 

✔ Trusted by thousands of lesbians, queer women and non-binary people


✔  Trauma-informed, neuroscience-based, attachment theory-savvy, and based on decades of lived lesbian and queer experience 


✔  World-class LGBTQ teachers, and coaches trained in the world's only coach training specifically designed to support lesbians and queer people with dating and love 

 

Start Your Journey Toward A Conscious, Loving Lesbian Relationship

 

If you're ready to break free from old patterns and create lesbian love that truly lasts, join Conscious Girlfriend Academy today. Our proven approach to lesbian dating support, lesbian relationship help, and personal transformation is here to guide you. 

Join a warm-hearted, growth-oriented group of lesbians and adjacent queer people who may become your chosen family... from all over the U.S., Canada and 23 other countries. 

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Hear From People Like You

 "CGA has changed my life... After my last breakup, I was left with so many questions. I'm so grateful I found this community. I've never felt so seen." 

"I never thought I would date online, but I learned how, and that's how I met my partner."

"I had been looking for a long time for a community of thoughtful single queer women, and I found that here... and then I met someone amazing!"  

"I've been through a lot of relationship training, but CGA was my best investment ever."

"I'm really grateful because I was at a low point, and CGA gave me quality community working toward what I'm working toward, a place I can grow."  

"I was amazed at the low prices... I think it's just the most amazing deal ever, for what you get."  

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Meet Our Director

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D.

Dr. Ruth Schwartz, author of the Amazon-bestselling book Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, is a pioneer in lesbian and queer relationship education.

 

After coming out in the 1980s, Ruth had to learn everything the hard way. There was no healthy dating or relationship roadmap for women who loved women... so, after decades of struggle, she created one.

 

Incorporating neuroscience, attachment theory, psychology and lesbian culture, Ruth designed the transformational path our community desperately needs, and hasn't had until now.  

 

Read Ruth’s full story here.

Meet Some Our 

Faculty, Staff & Coaches

Nicki Monahan

Nicki (who also goes by Nick) first found CGA back in 2016 while recovering from a painful divorce. In 2022 she went through our very first Coach Training and began leading our Tuesday night Skill-Building Labs later that year. Nick is an outdoor adventurer, dog lover, master coach and trainer in the Concordia University Coach Certification Program. She is also a warm-hearted friend and gentle, incisive coach and group leader holding down the fort from Toronto, Canada. 

Jen Solin

Jen first found CGA in 2022, after a series of what she calls "lesbian train wreck relationships."  In 2023, she became our Outreach Director, then took our Coach Training. Now a certified CGA Coach, Jen offers our Intake and Strategy calls, and is our resident expert in many other things, including ocean swimming, mango gathering, Spanish and Latina outreach, and building conscious lesbian community in South Florida, and wherever she goes.

Coaches

Just a few of our coaches! Left to right: Michel Grey, 2022, led Tuesday Skills Labs. Kai Wu, 2022, co-led Lesbian Erotic Liberation 6-week series. Jamie Bolyard, Risa August and Lisa Madsen, 2023. Lisa is our  resident expert for women coming out after hetersosexual marriages. Sandy Rakowitz, 2024, teaches animal communication. Poonam Bhargava, 2024, specializes in working with women of the Southeast Asian Diaspora.

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What our faculty, staff, coaches and participants have in common

(Does this sound like you, too?)

 

We care deeply about our relationships. We want to love and be loved well, and we bring our fierce intelligence and brave hearts to that effort. Yet at times each of us found ourselves in unhealthy relationships or painful breakups, feeling stuck or shattered, unsure how to move forward. 

 

The Conscious Girlfriend Academy is a place where we come together to change that. Here, with like-minded others, you get to grow into the more beautiful life and love your heart yearns for. 

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Introductory classes free to all who have previously attended an Academy event; $1.00 Trust & Safety Fee for new participants. 

Get Your Needs Met (While Loving Well)

 

Saturday, May 3

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Soul On Earth: Mystical Tools for Contemporary Times

 

Sunday, May 4

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